FLAMES Calculator: Your Match?
Ever wonder what your relationship with someone truly is? The FLAMES Calculator uses a fun, old-school method to give you an answer.
The FLAMES Calculator tells you your relationship status based on two names. It's a fun game from school that spells out Friends, Lovers, Affection, Marriage, Enemies, or Siblings.
How to Play FLAMES
- Step 1: Enter your name and the name of another person.
- Step 2: Remove all matching letters from both names.
- Step 3: Count the remaining letters and find your FLAMES result.
At a Glance
- Cost: Completely free, with no sign-up and no account needed.
- Time needed: Under a minute from start to result.
- Works on: Phone, tablet and desktop, straight in your browser.
- Privacy: Nothing you type is saved or shared.
- Best for: Date night, long-distance couples, or a quick bit of fun together.
- Languages: English here, with 59 more in our translation hub.
What FLAMES Means
The FLAMES game assigns a word to your relationship based on a simple letter-counting method. Each letter in FLAMES stands for a possible outcome. It's a quick and playful way to see your compatibility.
After counting the unique letters from both names, you use that number to cycle through the letters in F-L-A-M-E-S. The letter you land on reveals your playful relationship status.
FLAMES Meanings
| Letter | Meaning | Description |
|---|---|---|
| F | Friends | You share a friendly bond. |
| L | Lovers | There's a romantic spark between you. |
| A | Affection | You have strong feelings for each other. |
| M | Marriage | A future together might be in the stars. |
| E | Enemies | You might not always see eye to eye. |
| S | Siblings | You have a family-like, platonic connection. |
Tips to Get More Out of It
How the FLAMES count really works
The game starts by tidying up: both names are lowercased, and anything that is not a letter — spaces, hyphens, apostrophes — is dropped. Then shared letters are struck out one for one. A letter that appears twice in one name needs two matches in the other to be struck twice; a single match only cancels one.
Whatever survives is counted across both names together. That number is then walked around the ring F-L-A-M-E-S, looping back to F after S, and the letter you stop on is the verdict. Count 7, for instance, and you go all the way round and land back on F for Friends. If every letter cancels, this version calls it Twins rather than picking a side.
Jack and Rose share no letters at all, so nothing is struck out and all 8 letters survive. Counting 8 around the ring — F, L, A, M, E, S, F, L — stops on L. Verdict: Lovers. The film got there first.
The names share an h and one r, which are struck from both sides. Harry keeps a, r, y and Hermione keeps e, m, i, o, n, e — nine letters in total. Counting nine steps around F-L-A-M-E-S lands on A, so Harry and Hermione get Affection.
Things Worth Knowing
- The letters decide everything. The score comes from counting the letters your two names do not share, then cycling F-L-A-M-E-S by that number - change one spelling and the outcome flips.
- Six outcomes, not a percentage. FLAMES lands on Friends, Lovers, Affectionate, Marriage, Enemies or Siblings, which is half the drama of the playground original.
- Nicknames count as different names. Katherine and Katie share different letters with the same partner, so run both and see which fate you prefer.
Try These Next
If you want a number instead of a fate, the love calculator scores two names as a percentage, and the crush calculator is built for the do-they-like-me stage FLAMES was invented for.